Words to Build Self Esteem

Written by Karl Perera MA, DipLC.

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Can words build self esteem? This is one of the main questions we will consider here on this page. According to the Bible, God created the world with words. This report, published by the Association for Talent development and written by Blitzer et al., mentions how important words are in building the self esteem of employees.

As a life coach, published author, and former sufferer of low self esteem and depression, I know how powerful words can be. Think about how others’ words can affect you either positively or negatively.

It is a good idea to use words to build self esteem. Encouraging feedback at work or school can help you feel better about yourself. The words of a friend, or a family member can boost your self-confidence. According to Alain Morin, self-talk has a profound effect on our thoughts and behaviour.

But before we take a look at some wonderful words that will inspire you to build your self esteem, take a look at the image and think about the meaning of love. As with all things, including self esteem and even happiness, they come from within you. from within your heart.

The Power of Words Can Motivate You or Hurt Your Confidence

Words are indeed powerful, you only have to think back to a time someone said something to you that hurt. Has anyone ever said anything that knocked your confidence? I bet you have, as it happens to the best of us at some point. On the other hand, words can encourage you and motivate you, they can inspire you to be a better version of yourself. Think of someone who had a positive effect on you, perhaps a great teacher or someone you are very close to.

“One must always be careful of books,” said Tessa, “and what is inside them, for words have the power to change us.”

Cassandra Clare, Clockwork Angel

If you constantly criticize yourself or tell yourself you are not good enough then your self esteem suffers. On the other hand, positive words inside your head can really lift you and encourage you. This is why negative self talk can be so important. make sure that you use your own inner words to support you and not resort to self-criticism.

Words can help you become more confident and positive. In this article written by Honig, teachers are encouraged to use positive words to promote confidence in young children. In particular, the article shows how words which acknowledge positive attributes in the children are very effective at building confidence. An example would be “you are a helpful and kind person who enjoys sharing with others”.

Self hypnosis is another amazingly effective way to change the way you think and feel. It is a highly successful technique because it uses the positive power of words on your mind and body.

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Inspirational Words and Quotes Can Change You

On this page I will include quotations that can lift your spirits and motivate you to build self esteem and your self-confidence. However, words alone can do nothing unless you think about them and take action to change your reality.

Reading quotes about building self esteem daily will open your eyes and your heart, and fill you with hope again. It will change you and will help you to become more positive each day. You must put the effort in to changing the direction of your mind!

The Inspirational Words of Muhammad Ali

Muhammad Ali was a boxer who used words very powerfully. The words he chose could affect his opponents psychologically. The way he spoke about himself, saying “I am the greatest”, is legendary. It is clear that saying these words created an aura of self-confidence and convinced others this was true.

Muhammad Ali confidence quote

“I know where I’m going and I know the truth, and I don’t have to be what you want me to be. I’m free to be what I want.”

“If they can make penicillin out of mouldy bread, they can sure make something out of you.”

“It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen.”

It isn’t the mountains ahead to climb that wear you out; it’s the pebble in your shoe.”

“I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.”

Read many more inspiring thoughts here

More Words of Inspiration That Will help You Feel More Confident

“If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”

Fred Rogers

“One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.”

Michael J. Fox

“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.”

William James

“You are not your mistakes; they are what you did, not who you are.”

Lisa Lieberman-Wang

Feeling Down and need Inspiration?

Inspiration is something we all need from time to time. Are you feeling bad about yourself? Lost your way or your direction in life? Bored with your life? Perhaps you’ve taken a knock and feel rather negative about life.

Whatever you are feeling and whatever the cause nothing has the power to motivate you like words.

Inspiring Books Can Help You Use Positive Thinking To Improve Your Life

For me personally, when I faced depression and low self esteem, I needed ways to help change my negativity into positivity and I chose words as the tool I would use. Let me explain.

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Reading feeds your mind!

I read inspiring books and listened to audiobooks and set my mind on a program of renewal and education into methods that produce not only a better level of self esteem but more positive thinking. This helped to bring me to a place where I found the hope I needed to face my problems, both physical and mental. You can do the same as I did!

The first thing I recommend then is to read books filled with inspiring words that will allow you to rediscover joy and love in your world. Or even better, listen to audiobooks. A great one to start with is I Needed This Today: Words to Live by Hoda Kotb. . This will certainly point you in the right direction, as it discusses the value of words to inspire you to be more positive in every aspect of your life.

Let your Creativity out!

This following piece is from my newsletter, (click to sign up), which I sent out in July 2002 and talks about the value of creativity. Your creativity makes you unique and will help to inspire you to more self esteem. Here is the message I sent out:

If you realise your creative potential you will be happier and increase your level of self esteem. In this article below, I will explain the importance of being creative and how developing your creativity will benefit you.

You have a creative urge within. We all do. Don’t ignore it or you will feel you are “cheating” yourself. Find time to satisfy this deep need to create within yourself.

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I took up oil painting about five months ago (this was in 2002!). It was something I had always wanted to do, but somehow I never found the time. I decided to make the time. Now I have five paintings to show for my efforts! I am very satisfied with these, and when friends comment positively on them, guess what? My self esteem receives a sudden boost. Others are confirming I have achieved something, I am special and have a talent I have newly discovered. I always suspected I had this talent, now I have proved it to myself. Maybe I can even achieve greater things!

Maybe you have talents and you don’t know about them yet. Maybe there is something creative you want to take up. Don’t delay – you can find the time – it’s worth it!

Taking the time to invest time into a new hobby or activity which requires creativity can lead to self-discovery and a new-found sense of confidence and self-esteem, so take the chance when it presents itself.

Now, all these years later, I have taken up a new hobby and it is both challenging and creative. Take a look at some of the photos I have produced from this new pastime. I’d love to hear what you think of my efforts, or about what hobby you have started. Send me a message and let me know about your new hobby.

Some Tips How to Build Your Self Esteem and Happiness

  • Who are you? Listen to your inner voice and follow it for it is wisdom and knows what is best for you.
  • Talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet. Remove all negative talk!
  • Think only of the best, work only for the best and expect only the best – you deserve nothing less.
  • Care about the happiness and success of others and offer them all the help and encouragement they need. Words of encouragement are sometimes the best help you can give to others.
  • Forget your past mistakes and focus on your successes encouraging yourself to greater achievements in the future.
  • Always do your best so you can be proud that you gave it your best shot. There should be no room for regret!
  • When you help someone, ask nothing in return, you will receive your reward ten times over. Try this fantastic meditation video – it’ll blow your mind! Ask for Nothing, Receive Everything

How You Can Build Up Your Low Self Confidence

If you suffer from low self confidence, you may fill your head with negative words that stop you before you even try. Life is full of new challenges and fears of change, so you need to overcome this and try everything. Low self confidence is your enemy. Build your Self Confidence – Hypnosis downloads – quick, easy and guaranteed to help you build your confidence (prepared by experienced psychologists and gets my full recommendation)

Try being creative, perhaps you’ll surprise yourself! Even doing something just for the enjoyment of it is worthwhile, because you are satisfying a need and therefore taking care of yourself. When you do this you are increasing your self esteem.

Creative activity will provide you with an outlet to express yourself. Poetry, painting, music, writing and so on is therapy for the soul and mind! It is the road to self-discovery by taking action and making choices.

So be creative. Whatever you choose to do will be time well spent. It’s a good idea, though, to get instruction as this will help you improve and give you encouragement to develop your talents. Good luck, your self esteem is going to be higher!

More Information about Creativity:

Find out more about the connection between self esteem and creativity.

My Audio CD “A More Confident You”

If you believe you have poor self confidence or low self esteem, where do you think that came from? Have words had a part to play in that? I bet they have. The words of others can stick in your mind and, if critical, can fuel your own negative beliefs about yourself. It stands to reason that the opposite is true, words can heal also. I have developed a 60 minute audio that can help you to build your self confidence. If you’d like to leave the old negative you behind and build up your self esteem and confidence levels then let you need to listen to my audio A More Confident You available now, just click the link to learn more now.

“Just finished it, feeling motivated! Like the questions asked, short and simple, yet they really make you think!”
Karen Lewis

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A More Confident You Audio by me, Karl Perera

References

  • Blitzer, R. J., Petersen, C., & Rogers, L. (1993). How to build self-esteem. Training & Development47(2), 58-61.
  • Clare, C. (2010). Clockwork Angel.
  • Morin, A. (1993). Self-talk and Self-awareness: On the Nature of the Relation. The Journal of Mind and Behavior, 14(3), 223-234. Retrieved December 8, 2020, from http://www.jstor.org/stable/43853763
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Website Author and Your Guide

Karl Perera is a fully qualified Life Coach (DipLC), Teacher (MA) and author of the book Self Esteem Secrets. He has taught at various universities including Durham, Leicester and Anglia Ruskin, Cambridge. He has run More-SelfEsteem.com since 1997 since suffering from low self esteem for more than 25 years overcoming it in his thirties.

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