Written by Karl Perera, BA, MA, DipLC - Any purchase you make helps support my work on this website
Self-esteem issues are more common than you think. Do not go on believing that there are very few people who go through this, and the ones that do, nobody ever knows about them. In fact, if you are in a room filled with people, about 80% of them have some sort of problem regarding confidence. And the lucky ones that do not, chances are that they have been through something similar but went past it.
Reaching the conclusion that you have self-esteem problems is a huge step in its elimination. After all, you cannot solve an issue if you do not acknowledge it. You need to know what you are up against before thinking of ways how to fix it. It makes sense, right? But did you know that traveling alone can help you with self-esteem issues? To be honest, I had no idea. That was until I took a trip all on my own.
When I told people that I wanted to travel alone, the first thing I was told was that I was crazy. How can I possibly go alone through a few countries? It was a difficult decision, but now, I am glad I took it. People will try to persuade to give up that idea for safety reasons mostly, while others will say it is not fun on your own. However, no matter what you do, if you feel like this is something you must do, you should do it regardless of what those around tell you. Just get your passport and be on your way.
One of the things that will boost your self-esteem is the decision itself. It is not an easy one, and while others may express their concerns, you will have some of them on your own. Of course, it depends on where you plan on traveling alone, but countries in Europe, for example, are incredibly safe. That is the path I took as well. Coming back to our issue, once you buy that first plane ticket, you will start telling yourself that you can do this. And that is the first thing that will make you feel more confident.
Probably the most significant factor that will boost your self-esteem while traveling alone is having to deal with all kinds of situations and people on your own. There is nobody familiar around to help you, which ultimately compels you to engage in all sorts of social circumstances. It may seem scary at first, and it is, but once you go through that once or twice, and you will, you will feel more and more comfortable. You will feel more confident the next times around.
You will meet a lot of strangers. Some of them will like you, others will not. I know it may sound a bit much, but staying in hostels during your travels may actually help a lot. I am not saying that you should sleep only in hostels, but once or twice should do the trick. Interacting with as many people as possible is one of the best ways to bring up your self-esteem. You will see how strangers perceive you. You may like what you see or not, but you will definitely want to make some changes along the way. After all, nobody is perfect.
Right now, you may be asking yourself what traveling alone has to do with your self-esteem. It seems to have more to do with confidence. That is not entirely inaccurate. It will build your confidence. However, once you are more confident, you will have more respect for yourself, and you will have a better opinion of yourself. That is not insignificant. In my opinion, it is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Even so, you should experience caution. Also, do not forget about practical things like visas. Some countries require one. But other than that, the decision is the most difficult to make. Once you have that resolution, you are on a path to better self-esteem.
Website Author and Editor Bio
Karl Perera is a fully qualified Life Coach (DipLC), Teacher (MA) and author of Self Esteem Secrets. He has taught at various universities including Durham, Leicester and Anglia Ruskin, Cambridge. He has run More-SelfEsteem.com since 1997 and is an expert in Self Esteem and Self Confidence.