Here I plan to make a list of my personal and my favourite online self help writers that I believe are the very best in their fields. As I discover new writers I will add them here and do a review of a post I particularly like and tell you where you can read more from that author. I have no affiliation with the authors or the websites they write for, so this is my unashamedly honest opinion.
This week’s featured writer is Therese Borchard
I have been reading articles online written by Therese for a while now and really admire her writing. She has experienced depression first hand (like me) and writes from experience. She doesn’t just write about depression though, she also writes articles about inspiration, anxiety, happiness and relationship and many other related self help topics. Today I’d like to share with you a couple of posts I really like and comment on them.
The first post is great because it is one that accepts we all sometimes feel insecure and offers you steps you can take to feel a bit more confident. The first thing I want to say about this post is that it seems a bit negative to me in the fact that it is not about changing to be a less insecure person, it is about accepting that you are sometimes insecure and what to do when you feel like that. I prefer to write on this site about ways to lift yourself out of low self esteem and to change the way you think. I see Therese’s point that there are things we can do to make ourselves feel less insecure but the thought is that you are stuck with this. Maybe you can change and become a more confident person. Anyway, I like the steps she offers and they will help you.
The first point in the article also makes the point about humility which is a quality valued in religion yet in modern day society it seems to pay to be the opposite. You choose what you believe and I like what she says about how you can even choose to see insecurity in a more positive light.
The last point Therese makes in the article is the best one I think. “No one can see your insecurity.” she writes. Remembering that people are blind to what you think is painfully obvious to everybody is important. If you look confident and act in a confident way then people will believe you are confident. Why should they think differently? No one can read your mind unless you make it obvious. I like her point also that others are more concerned with how they feel than they are about paying attention to your behaviour closely. Relax! I totally agree with this point.
Therese writes for a few well-known online websites including psychcentral, ask.com and everydayhealth.com and she also has her own blog at thereseborchard.com so please go check her out. I have no connection with Therese, I simply recommend her writing to you as I have found it to be excellent and have benefited from her experience myself.
I’d love to know your thoughts if you go read the above article or other articles by Therese, so please feel free to drop a comment and let me know what you think!
Please visit this page again soon as I will be featuring another writer next week.
Featured Writer – Noch Noch Li
So to start I would like to introduce you to the first writer who is known as Noch Noch and often writes about depression. She has, like me, suffered from depression and writes about it in a magic way that is very personal and insightful. I just love the style and content she puts on her blog.
Let me add here that I have no affiliation to the site at all or to Noch Noch herself I am just an admirer of those who write with emotion and with the aim of helping others.
Noch Noch often talks about being herself and being natural and that is something that really strikes a chord with me. I have tried to be different by being me and sometimes I have regretted not doing the safe and predictable things like stick with a regular full time job rather than follow what I love to do, that is write and help others.
Now this week I see that Noch Noch has posted a new piece called “My Hater Attitude” and I want to talk about a few points raised in that post.
Before I do that please read “My Hater Attitude” at NochNoch.com.
I have fallen into the trap that she mentions of being jealous of other people’s successes. When I was depressed I hated the world and this included myself. Part of that involved bitterness at other’s success and happiness. After all, if I was unhappy why were others not feeling like me? Just as Noch Noch says in her post, this too made me even more unhappy.
This bitterness does stem from self confidence issues but I also feel that what you give is exactly what you get. I tried being happy for others and hoping that things would change for me too. Realising that being bitter is very negative and can lead only to a deeper sense of depression and loneliness inside.
I cannot really find anything in her post to disagree with and I advise you to get on over to Noch Noch’s blog and check out some of the posts yourself. I’ll be checking her site regularly from time to time I know that.
Next time I’ll be reviewing another post and another of my favourite writers so be sure to come back and read that soon. Love to hear in the comments section what you think about the authors I review here and what you like to read online.
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