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Self Confidence Tips

Written by Karl Perera BA, MA, DipLC
Updated: June 9th, 2020

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Many people have issues because of poor self confidence, maybe you do too. Therefore, we are going to focus on how you can solve this problem using the helpful self confidence tips I have put together for you.

Self confidence tips can be easy to follow, but require you to go beyond your comfort zone. There is no easy way to boost self confidence, but focusing on your achievements, changing your body language, setting realistic goals and celebrating milestones along the way, can help.

There are so many self confident tips I could include here, but I have decided to list the most effective and often neglected areas where you can make progress. If you follow my advice and focus on these tips each day, you will gradually build your self confidence to the point where your life will be hugely improved.


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Look for a Role Model to Inspire Your Confidence

Look for a model (someone who has self confidence) and learn from them. What is it they do that makes them confident, how do they act? Often, if you act confidently you will feel more self assured (according to an article in Health Psychology ). Sometimes a smile is all you need, but there are other steps you can take to feel more relaxed in any situation.

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Believe in your dreams, believe in yourself

Focus on Your Achievements and Successes

Focus on your achievements rather than on your failures. If you do find yourself thinking about how you failed, look at what you did right and how you could improve next time. This change will make you more positive and will boost your self confidence. One area which is a problem for people is dealing with others. If this is an issue, try these tips for improving your confidence in relationships.

Set Realistic Goals You Can Achieve in Confident Steps

Now that you have reflected on your successes so far, this self confidence tip takes you one step further in planning for your next achievements. Goal-setting is a great way to build self confidence if you do it the right way. It is actually, as this study found, feedback from successes that boosts self confidence.

Set reachable goals for yourself and break difficult tasks into smaller steps. This will help you to believe that you can achieve your larger goals if you can see the clear steps towards it and know that you can be successful by taking these smaller steps. Never underestimate how important your self esteem and self worth is.

Reward yourself when you succeed no matter how small the achievement. Remind yourself that you are moving forward with determination and that you are one step closer to achieving your goal. Give yourself credit.

Improve Your Body Language So You Look Confident

By changing your body language, you can send off a more positive message to others about the kind of person you are. If your body language is confident, others will respond to you better and you will be filled with self confidence.

Always smile and stand up straight. Your posture and smile will project confidence and you will feel better able to cope with anything. You will also find that others respond to you better and this will give you an added boost. This is especially important with public speaking.

List the Things You Like About Yourself

Think carefully and I’m sure if you are honest, you can list a few things that you like about yourself. A couple of questions to ask yourself if you need some suggestions…What do your friends like about you? Are you reliable? What are your strengths at work? Is there anything you like about your appearance? What are your strengths? Is there anything positive you like about your personality? What can you do well? Do you have values which others admire?

The above questions can help you find things to put on your like list, but I am sure you can think of many other things to write. If you are feeling brave, ask others what your strengths are.

Listing these will help build your self confidence, and also change your thinking from negative to positive.

Work on Your Preparation for Any Difficult Task or Challenge

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There’s is a saying isn’t there that success is nine tenths preparation and one tenth luck. So, it pays to be well prepared, even over-prepared. The fact that you know your stuff and are absolutely ready will boost your confidence and increase your chances of success. This will also make any challenge that little bit less stressful, and you can relax more.

This study confirms the importance of self-confidence and the importance of preparation for nurses/

Develop New Skills and Improve Existing Ones

This is related to the last point about preparation because if you know with certainty that you have the knowledge and skills for the job you will be filled with confidence. Self doubt will melt away as you acquire and develop your skills.

Developing skills and learning will also have the extra benefit of gaining respect from others who will acknowledge your expertise and knowledge. At work, this could result in promotion or added responsibility and once you get experience using your new skills, you become more valuable in your career and opportunities open up.

Learning new skills is necessary in this fast-paced world and can really boost your confidence, so always take an opportunity to learn more.

Develop the Ability to Feel Relaxed and Confident in Challenging Situations

Work on your relaxation skills.

When you come to challenging moments, relaxing will enable you to control your negative emotions and project positivity. Breathing is one aspect of this that is so important because controlling your breathing controls your body’s reactions to what’s going on around you.

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Finally, I advise you not to be too competitive or compare yourself with others. Be yourself and accept that life is not a race against others. Your self confidence depends on you and your personal needs. Set your own standards and allow yourself to overcome challenges at your own pace.

Face Your Fears and Overcome Them

You should face your fears and work to overcome them so that your success will boost your self belief. Avoiding the things you fear most will make them stronger and hurt your confidence. No pain, no gain!

Fears grow with negative thinking and if you avoid the things which scare you your confidence will drop. Work out what you fear most at work or in general life and confront that fear by gradually step by step taking on the fear and overcoming it. For example, giving presentations is a common fear but being successful at them will bring many benefits to you both professionally and personally. first speak in a small group and raise a question or two. Gradually try speaking up in more difficult situations and if you feel able when you are ready to say goodbye to your fear, do a presentation. Each step and successful attempt you make the better you will feel about yourself and your fear will get less and your confidence will take you further.

Using Self Help Tools to Boost Your Self Confidence

Many people try this but fail. Let me try to help you to choose and utilize self help tools in the correct way so that you can succeed in building your confidence rather than waste time.

There are so many sources of self help!

Use any tools available to you to improve your performance. These include books, courses, seminars, videos and information available on the internet. Try using a journal to plot your successes as they occur. And when things don’t go as planned, note down what went wrong and how you can improve next time. It is so important to write these down and begin to focus on improvement and achievement no matter how small. You can learn to become confident, I promise – so start today!

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What Is Your Biggest Obstacle to More Self Confidence?

Your thinking. Negative thinking to be exact. If you think negatively, you will be easily put off by what happens to you or by what others tell you.

One of my biggest self confidence tips is to read inspirational quotes that help you to believe in yourself. There are plenty of wonderful examples of suitable quotes online and off. Repeating these quotes can turn them into affirmations which help you to change your beliefs and way of thinking. Putting quotes where you can read them is helpful and this is why you see motivational posters in companies everywhere. Words are inspiring.

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Further Reading

Positivity Blog – Top 24 Tips for Making your Confidence Soar – Boost your Self-Confidence

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We won’t make any assumptions, but everybody has at least one bad habit they could get rid of, or improve at doing things that are good for health and well-being. So, let’s go over some examples of common ways to demonstrate self-discipline and subsequently acquire self-confidence in the process:


  • Earley, P. C., Northcraft, G. B., Lee, C., & Lituchy, T. R. (1990). Impact of process and outcome feedback on the relation of goal setting to task performance. Academy of management journal33(1), 87-105.
  • Nair, Sagar, Sollers, Consedine, Broadbent. 2015. “Do slumped and upright postures affect stress responses? A randomized trial.” Health Psychology Journal. 34(6):632-41. doi: 10.1037/hea0000146
  • Porter, J., Morphet, J., Missen, K., & Raymond, A. (2013). Preparation for high-acuity clinical placement: confidence levels of final-year nursing students. Advances in medical education and practice4, 83.

Website Author and Editor Bio

Photo of Karl Perera, MA, DipLC Karl Perera is a fully qualified Life Coach (DipLC), Teacher (MA) and author of Self Esteem Secrets. He has taught at various universities including Durham, Leicester and Anglia Ruskin, Cambridge. He has run since 1997 and is an expert in Self Esteem and Self Confidence.

3 thoughts on “Self Confidence Tips”

  1. Stefan Bradley

    I’m glad that you mentioned how reading inspirational quotes can help change the way that you think about yourself. My uncle has been dealing with some self-esteem issues ever since his wife divorced him, I want to help him improve his mental state. I think it would be a good idea for him to find a self-help website that can boost his confidence.

  2. Daphne Gilpin

    Thanks for explaining that negative thinking is a big barrier to self confidence because it causes us to be more easily put-off by what happens to us. I recently heard about Christine Mendoza’s ideas, and I’m really interested in learning more about how to be confident as a woman. I’m glad I read your article because I think actively combating negative thinking will be really helpful as I start my journey to confidence.

  3. Thanks for these amazing tips. I’m having a tricky day, but I’ll pick a few of your tips and keep on trucking!! Thank you.

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