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A random act of kindness benefits everyone. It shows you respect and love others and when you do, others will respond to you much more positively. By showing kindness to others you are telling them they are important and you are in fact building their self value too.
According to a recent study published in Clinical Psychological Science, a journal from the Association for Psychological Science, doing something helpful and being kind to others can reduce your level of stress. Performing acts of kindness can help to reduce your negative feelings and so can impact your life positively. Learn more about the study here.
An act of kindness next time you’re driving? Yes! Give way, step off that pedal and let someone else go first. You’ll feel good. Try tipping that poor homeless soul on the pavement and feel the warmth inside. I would say the giver is rewarded most. Meanness in spirit keeps you trapped in a world filled with worry and stress. Give and be freed!
If you treat others with respect and kindness then you allow yourself to feel closer to others and connected with the world around you. Also, you will be building your self esteem because you will feel you are doing good and being useful to others.
By changing your attitude towards others and their behaviour to a more open-minded, understanding and caring one, you also become an advocate for change. In a time when people across the world face discrimination, oppression and violence, I believe it is our duty to continue to stand for the best of humanity, and to set the right example for not only those around us but for future generations as well.
It may sound cliché, but there really is nothing more fulfilling than knowing that you were able to change someone else’s life for the better. Don’t undermine the power of smiling, complimenting, supporting others and caring for them.
“We are constituted so that simple acts of kindness, such as giving to charity or expressing gratitude, have a positive effect on our long-term moods. The key to the happy life, it seems, is the good life: a life with sustained relationships, challenging work, and connections to community.” – Paul Bloom
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In a violent world kindness is a limited commodity. You’ll not only be appreciated but you will begin to…..respect yourself and feel good inside !
Your self esteem will grow and your self criticism will fade away. Self confidence will take root and grow.
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Sometimes you can become so wrapped up in your own world and desire for success and happiness that you close yourself to others. Here’s an important principle to improving your life:
If you want to receive focus on giving. Give more of yourself to others, love more and be kind. Care about the success of others and help them. By doing this you open yourself up to receive all that you desire to be happy.
These principles are all to do with giving. Giving is all about showing your appreciation for someone. Take time to thank your friends, your teacher, your partner for their time and their support.
Show someone you care!
Ways you can show kindness today
- Compliment others. Make sure you genuinely mean it though. A compliment may make someone’s day or even alter their life.
- Help another person to see the positive side of an experience and to feel better about what has happened.
- Talk to someone about their dreams and encourage them to follow what they truly want as long as it is a goal worth fighting for.
- Listen diligently. People usually talk on and on about themselves, but not everyone listens. Listening to others, being supportive and giving them a shoulder to lean on can embolden your relationships greatly.
- Thank someone warmly for the help they have given.
- Be kind to yourself and remind yourself each day what you like about yourself and about your life.
- Tell yourself positive things rather than being critical.
- Try and stop complaining, instead seeking the positives in your experiences. Spreading negative energy to those around you can bring them down and affect them too! Concentrate on the positives and watch how your relationships and your life evolves!
- Take time to check if you can help those around you. Hold open the door, smile at others, help someone across the street, small but important acts of kindness affect others and change your world too.
- Phone an isolated, lonely person and offer to take them out for a cup of coffee.
- Offer your place in a queue to someone else who is in a hurry.
- Clean up someone else’s mess. Going out of your way when you don’t need to doesn’t often go unnoticed.
- Sign up for voluntary work to help those who are vulnerable.
- Donate to charities you can trust that can make a difference. Non-profit organisation GiveWell provides detailed analysis of charities and can help you decide where to donate.
Does kindness really have anything to do with your happiness and stress levels? According to a study conducted by Harvard Business School and the University of British Columbia , there is a clear link. Given the opportunity to spend small sums of money on either themselves or others, participants were told to choose whatever would make them happier, and were reminded they would remain anonymous in order to remove any potential pressures to behave a certain way. The research came out with two important findings which ultimately suggested that there is a “positive feedback loop” between kindness and happiness, meaning that the two compliment and encourage each other. Read more about the study .
Website Author and Editor Bio
Karl Perera is a fully qualified Life Coach, Teacher and author of Self Esteem Secrets. His qualifications include Masters and DipLC. He has taught at various universities including Durham, Leicester and Anglia Ruskin, Cambridge. He has run More-SelfEsteem.com since 1997 and is an expert in Self Esteem and Self Development.