Newsletter 5 September 2002

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“Self Esteem and Decisions” by Karl Perera

Have you got an important decision to make? Your self esteem will play a part in every aspect of your decision making.

Here’s a few points to remember when making important decisions:

  • Make decisions only when you feel good and your self esteem level is highest.
  • Work hard always to keep your self esteem high.
  • When your self esteem is high you will focus on your needs and those of others as well.
  • When considering various courses of action never take one which will hurt your self esteem. All decisions should boost your self esteem. 

An example: If you resign and take a less demanding job you will suffer a drop in your level of self esteem. BAD DECISION! If, however, the new job gives you much more satisfaction and you perceive it to be of more value then you will increase your self esteem. GOOD DECISION!

Self esteem is not always based on logic as it is more to do with your emotions.

When you draw up a list of pros and cons and try to make your decision based on logic you are neglecting an important aspect of the problem and that is how you feel. Ask yourself does this decision increase or decrease your self esteem, do you feel good or bad about the decision? What about others involved? How does your decision affect their self esteem?

Self esteem will also affect your carrying out the decision. Low self esteem will prevent you from having the self confidence to back your decision with action especially if it is a hard or important decision. So:

Work on your self esteem and have the confidence to back your decisions!  

Build your Self Confidence – Hypnosis downloads – quick, easy and guaranteed to help you build your confidence (prepared by experienced psychologists and gets my full recommendation). With more confidence you will be able to make better decisions and succeed!

Karl Perera

There are many helpful books on self esteem. Check out the self help bookstore for my personal selection of the best of these.


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