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In my younger days I used to be very shy and it really affected me negatively in class. I’ve gone from a shy student to a confident teacher. This transformation and experience has enabled me to help many to build confidence and self esteem. So if you’re a quiet student, this page will be very helpful as we look at how to be confident in class.
To be confident in class, deal with self consciousness and the fear of being embarrassed by the teacher or by classmates. Steps you can take to become more confident in class include preparing well, taking care of your appearance, and learning to relax and smile.
As i have mentioned, I suffered from extreme low self esteem and shyness in class when I was at school. I do think that my experiences back then have helped me to think about common problems that maybe you might face with self confidence and that could affect you in class. It doesn’t matter what age you are, or where you go to class, what I have to say here will be very helpful to you I’m sure.
Dealing With Self Consciousness in Class
As a student you may experience self consciousness, which, in its worst form, makes you think that all eyes are focused on you and that everybody is just waiting for you to make a stupid mistake. Self consciousness is often built on top of the fear of embarrassment. The classroom is one place where this can easily affect you because it can be stressful and very public. It is also a competitive place unless the teacher takes care to make it a relaxed class.
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Have you ever sat in class praying that the teacher doesn’t ask you a question? Knowing that you can’t answer and that the teacher or others in class may judge you by your answer causes a lot of self consciousness and pain. I know I have felt this a number of times.
The effects of self consciousness are awful. You might feel like a spotlight is shining on you and you sweat because you doubt your ability to answer the question. Your pulse races and you feel hot. When you do get asked you make a complete mess or get very embarrassed.
If this describes how you sometimes feel in the classroom, then I have sympathy! Learning is quite impossible if you feel this way. If you are confident, your learning will be much more effective .
Making mistakes is a crucial part of learning in class and self consciousness and fear of embarrassment will destroy this because you cannot permit yourself to make a mistake.
My approach to teaching is to encourage students to take a risk, make mistakes and learn from them. Unfortunately not every classroom or teacher agrees with this method and often students can be quite uncomfortable and fearful.
What to Do to Feel Less Self Conscious and More Self Confident in Class?
As we have said, students often feel self conscious and lack confidence in class. The teacher should encourage students to feel confident in class to promote learning. But, teachers also need to be confident in class.
This study of mathematics teachers published in the Australian Journal of Teacher Education in 2017 shows that confidence improves the quality of teaching. So a confident teacher helps students become more confident.
If you are a student in class and suffer from self consciousness you can’t do anything about your teacher. That is beyond your control. But, there are steps you can take to become less self conscious, such as ensuring you prepare well for class. Having completed homework and having read about the topic will help you feel much more confident about the subject and you will fear answering less.
You could work on building your self confidence in general. This is where self hypnosis can help you. Let me recommend that you try the following program:
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Improve Your Physical Appearance by Dressing and Grooming Well
Feeling clean and well dressed will make you feel more confident. It will also give a better impression to others who will then treat you with more respect. So make sure to shower, groom yourself well and dress well before class. Don’t go to class wearing anything that will make you feel self conscious, and don’t give anybody any reason to make fun of your appearance.
This study by David Schneider, published in Psychological Reports (1974), found that students who were well-dressed actually behaved in a more positive way in class. This suggests that appearance can affect how confident someone looks and feels.
Learn Relaxation Techniques and Use Them
Relaxation techniques can improve your self confidence (see this article in the Universal Journal of Psychology).
The number one relaxation technique is to smile. Even if you feel stressed a smile can help you to relax just that little bit. You’ll also feel a bit more confident. Breathing more slowly and evenly can also help. Another technique that helps is to relax the muscles in your neck and face that naturally tense up when you get stressed. I’ve written a helpful page where you can learn these and many more techniques that will help you to relax in the most difficult situations.
So when you are in class and experience a difficult situation, these relaxation techniques can improve how you feel and behave. After some time your confidence will grow in class and once this happens, learning can become enjoyable again.
Be Proactive and Answer Questions before You Are Asked
If you contribute to classroom discussion by speaking before you are asked, you can take control of the situation and feel much better about yourself in class. This technique will restore confidence because others will begin to understand you know the subject. This does take some courage, but as with all such things once you get started and speak up it becomes easier.
Monitor and Record Your Progress
It is so much more motivating to track your successes and growing confidence in class. When I tried doing this many years ago, I found it very helpful to keep a daily journal and note the successes I had. You can even score the success of what you do. The advantage of a journal is you can use it to organise your thoughts and quickly see what progress you have made in a set period. You could even write what you could do better next time to keep yourself moving forward.
These are just a few tips which can solve your problem in class but there is so much more you can do – imagine solving this problem, no more sweating, fear or nervousness, no more embarrassment, just being calm and enjoying challenges in class and elsewhere…
By following these steps you can become more self confident in class. Not only will you feel better, you’ll be able to improve your learning and be a more successful student.
- Norton, S.J. (2017). Primary mathematics Trainee Teacher Confidence and Its Relationship to Mathematical Knowledge. Australian Journal of Teacher Education. Vol. 42 Issue 2.
- Schneider, D. J. (1974). Effects of Dress on Self-Presentation. Psychological Reports, 35(1), 167–170. https://doi.org/10.2466/pr0.19184.108.40.206
- Parnabas, V. A., Mahamood, Y., Parnabas, J., & Abdullah, N. M. (2014). The relationship between relaxation techniques and sport performance. Universal Journal of Psychology, 2(3), 108-112.
Website Author and Editor Bio
Karl Perera is a fully qualified Life Coach (DipLC), Teacher (MA) and author of Self Esteem Secrets. He has taught at various universities including Durham, Leicester and Anglia Ruskin, Cambridge. He has run More-SelfEsteem.com since 1997 and is an expert in Self Esteem and Self Confidence.