Shyness is a common problem for many people, so you are not alone, and by the way, I suffered greatly from shyness and I know how painful it can be. As regards what to do there are many things, the most important of which is to decide that you want to be less shy and more confident. The next step is to set yourself small targets to achieve. For example, make a list of small challenges you can face which will take you forward. If you are shy, making a speech is too great a leap but you can break it down, maybe first step ask a question in a small group, speak up in certain situations, talk to a certain person etc.
Confidence is a huge part of the problem of shyness. Lack of confidence is made even worse when you avoid difficult situations. It may reduce the pain, but it doesn’t solve your problem. The only way to overcome shyness is by confronting it. Build your Self Confidence – Hypnosis downloads – quick, easy and guaranteed to help you build your confidence (prepared by experienced psychologists and gets my full recommendation)
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I was also a fearful and shy type. There is only one way to overcome your shyness and that is to challenge your fear bit by bit. Write every success you experience daily and start now. I created a kind of diary where I would write about how I felt about challenges that faced me such as giving a presentation. I would then write about what steps I took and the success I had. I also gave myself grades out of ten for my interactions with others and saw an improvement. This builds your confidence and ensures progress.
One of the most difficult problems about changing yourself or your behaviour is the comments from other people who make fun of you. Decide that you won’t listen to them and if possible get away from them and be around someone who will support you, (if you know someone like this), if not, a professional is really helpful for this reason. I too have beaten shyness and understand what a serious problem it is! If you would like to talk to me about changing your life for the better then consider my Life Coaching Program – get a free session and try it!
Once people think of you as shy they label you and it takes a very long time for them to change their minds. Likewise, you need to change your own mind about yourself. The only way to beat shyness is to face situations which make you feel shy. Gradually face them and write a diary recording your successes as I mentioned above. I have a page about overcoming shyness here: www.more-selfesteem.com/overcoming_shyness_tips.htm please ask if you have any questions.
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