Written by Karl Perera BA, MA, DipLC
Updated: March 23rd, 2020

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A feeling of insecurity means that your self esteem will be under threat and may already be suffering, that’s why it is so important for you work towards feeling more secure. Feeling insecure often comes from a lack of confidence either in yourself or your situation in life. It is an intensely negative feeling. So why would you feel insecure? There are so many possible reasons:

  • Your job situation
  • Relationship problems
  • Social skills are not helping you
  • Money problems
  • Your self confidence is low
  • Fear of a challenge or something new
  • Fear of change
  • Lack of trust in another person who you depend on
  • Depression
  • Shyness
  • Criticism from others

When you have feelings of insecurity, you doubt yourself and your abilities to cope with a problem or situation, or you fear a negative outcome. Insecurity is really the feelings that result from low self confidence.  So what can you do then if you feel insecure? I think that addressing the problem is very important as insecurity could develop into something even worse and become real fear or even panic which will cause you to avoid situations which you find difficult. Rather than avoid these situations  you should confront them and learn to overcome them. By facing your fears and accepting challenges that you find difficult, you improve your confidence level and general self esteem. Your going to need to find the inner strength to face your fears and if you do this your life will be transformed!

Fear and Insecurity

If you experience insecurity and lack of confidence in any situation, first ask yourself if there is any logical reason for your feelings of insecurity. If there is, look at that and ask yourself what you could do about it to feel more comfortable and relaxed in that situation. Is it a skill that you need to develop, or is it that you need to be better prepared for such a challenge? In this case, you can solve your sense of insecurity simply by watching others or learning the skills necessary to be confident in the situation you fear. One such situation is public speaking which terrifies many people. There is a skill to successful public speaking and you can learn it. Shyness is another big problem, but if you face this you can become more assertive. You must confront these challenges and not run away from them. If you run from them they will become stronger and have more power over you. Read this page to find out more about overcoming shyness.

What to do to Feel Better

Remember that this is a world filled with worries, dangers and insecurity. Many of your imagined worries and dangers are not real, but some of them may be justified. Most people around the world fear terrorism and are stressed about aspects of their lives such as job security and finances. Modern life seems to have removed us from more relaxed and slower ways of living, increasing our stress levels. Remember though, you are not alone, ever. Talk to others about your fears and you will see that maybe most of them are based on your imagination and with another viewpoint you can put things in perspective. Friends are a great help in this respect. Here are five things to stop you feeling insecure .

Whatever it is you feel insecure about talk about it calmly, improve your skills in dealing with it and confront it – you will succeed! Even money problems can be worked through with some help and guidance. Perhaps you just need to get yourself organized and disciplined. Don’t be afraid to seek help if you need it, especially if you suffer from panic attacks.


As I said above, sometimes you may feel insecure and the reasons may be justified. In that case, you should try to increase your ability to tolerate insecurity. Trying to feel safe in an unsafe world or in an insecure job may be unrealistic so better to face up to the truth. Try to figure out what you might do to give yourself a chance at overcoming the problem and what you might do to improve your future opportunities.

Self confidence is something you can have and this will help you move closer to the life that you feel you should have. Without confidence and self esteem you cannot achieve what you want easily. Here is the opportunity of a lifetime – to become self confident – how? Click to download “feel better about yourself” now if you are really serious about changing your life. It works!

Further Reading

How to Overcome Insecurity

Stop feeling insecure – WikiHow

Website Author and Editor Bio

Photo of Karl Perera, MA, DipLC Karl Perera is a fully qualified Life Coach, Teacher and author of Self Esteem Secrets. His qualifications include Masters and DipLC. He has taught at various universities including Durham, Leicester and Anglia Ruskin, Cambridge. He has run since 1997 and is an expert in Self Esteem and Self Development.

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