How to Know What You Want From Life

So you are not sure about what you want in life? Being clear about what you desire and need to feel happier is so important because it is one of the first steps towards a better life filled with self esteem!

If you are still trying to decide what it is you truly want in life, then here are some great questions to ask yourself:

1. What interests excite you the most?

Think about what your real passion and desire is. Remember the times when you were really interested and excited by something you were doing. Think about why you enjoyed it so much. What is it about the activity that you love? Or is where you did it? It probably makes you feel good to remember. Choosing to do what you like is good for your self esteem and is the key to your happiness.

Once you’re able to pinpoint the things you truly enjoy doing, and pay attention to how these hobbies motivate you, you may soon notice you have a better idea of what it is you want in life and how you might be able to obtain it. Once you’ve figured out what excites you the most, I highly suggest you dedicate more of your time to these activities and pay attention to how your life changes.

2. What are you biggest successes in life?

No matter how small, list your most important achievements. This will raise your confidence and help you feel better about yourself. Acknowledging your successes is a good place to start because it highlights your talents and strengths and can guide you to where you need to go next. Don’t be too harsh on yourself. Giving yourself credit for even the simplest of accomplishments can help you feel better and set you up for bigger and better accomplishments.

3. If anything were possible, what would you choose to do and what would you want your life to be like?

A very big life-changing question but one which will enable you to start dreaming and imagining the possibilities. If you wish to improve your life, then first you must imagine what is possible. Forget the limits you believe hold you back or stop you, most of these are in your mind and not real limitations.

Don’t believe me? Check out Amy Purdy’s amazing story of how she made her dreams come true despite the incredible setbacks she had to go through – truly inspiring! You need to dream big to achieve big.

So, if your life were a book and you were the author, how would you want the story to go?

4. What are your goals?

Here’s where you need to get clear and write your goals down – as many as you like. My advice is to think BIG and forget your mind’s objections. Anything that comes to mind write it out as a goal. Think about it, if you have twenty goals and can achieve only half then that’s ten successes. If you only have two goals and achieve half that is only one success, so go for it!

At the end of the day, whether you believe it right now or not, your mind is the only thing standing between you and your dreams. See this page for more about how to create goals.

5. Who is the person you most respect/admire?

It is important to have a model, someone to look up to. This will enable you to understand that you CAN overcome problems and do what seems impossible, as others have before. Also, you can also understand more about yourself and the values you have because you can see them in the person you have chosen. Why did you choose that person? Answer this and you will discover more about who and what you want to be.

6. What don’t you like to do?

It is important to realise what you do NOT like and do NOT want in order to figure out what you DO want in your life. It is important to remember what it is that you’re truly passionate about in life and to separate this from things that you may be convinced into doing but you don’t actually enjoy. Don’t let this become negative though, treat it as a list of the things you want to remove from your life to make it better and to move closer to your dream.

7. How will you commit to getting everything you want?

This is the biggie! If you have answered the above life questions then you cannot just sit there, you have to take action. This is often the hardest step because problems will come, and you mustn’t give up. You need a positive attitude. One of the biggest problems is fear. You have to be strong and have support to fight this when doubt arrives, as it will. Decide how committed you are to your life changes and be 100% determined to work to bring about positive changes in your life. How far will you go if things get tough? Who can you tell about your plans? Telling someone you can rely on is important. If that person is helpful and supportive they will also hold you to your promises. A friend is priceless in helping you commit to your future. Remember that most successful people don’t focus on the negative, they are both realistic and have an optimistic attitude.

 Would you like to be ALWAYS powerfully positive no matter what life throws at you?

If your answer is YES, then I highly recommend you get this excellent self-hypnosis program: Power Positivity Pack which consists of the following downloads:

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The Gratitude Attitude

So now you know how to get clear about what you want. It requires time to answer each of these questions. Be honest with yourself and go for it!

Before you leave this page, if you found it helpful please share it with someone. Leave a comment below and tell me what you think about the ideas here and what you will do to change your life.


Canfield, J. (2015). Do You Know What You Really Want from Your Life? Decide Today! available from [accessed 27 October 2015]

Christ, S. (n.d.). 7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life available from [accessed 27 October 2015]

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16 Responses to “How to Know What You Want From Life”

  1. Kathlern tritschler Says:

    This inspires me, will reread many times

  2. stan Says:

    but, how to find a supportive friend? what should be the minimum extend of the support we need? In the mean of a friend you need toshare at least same interests, but is that enough for a friendship? May be some communication skills are also important, to develop…. You will have a support only if you feel confident, and sound convincible. …life is for selfish people?

  3. Mark Kevin Says:

    Wow. This article makes me feel alive again.
    I have a lot of dreams but still I am confused of what i want to be in life. Thank you very much and more power!

  4. racquel l munoz Says:

    Karl you are truly my inspiration! I cannot thank you enough for consistently, over many years now, always having your blessed words of inspiration readily available to me. No matter how many times I tend to get off track and dont take advantage of yr gracious commitment to helping me and many others ….you are forever faithfully there upon my return. Many thanks!!

  5. Claudia Says:

    This is truly amazing
    I only just started reading it and its like magic
    so many answers
    I was praying this morning for help
    I see this email as an answer to my prayers

  6. karl perera Says:

    I do hope that this list of questions to ask yourself if you are unsure of what you want in your life is helpful.

    keep working on achieving your dreams!

    I wish everybody more self esteem and confidence!

  7. Alex Says:

    Quite grateful to have come across this. there was a lot of insight here. Thank you so much

  8. vanikishor Says:

    Hi Karl

    Your messages inspires a lot. It makes me RE-LIVE. Keep sending me more on motivation too.

  9. EMMY Says:

    Am encouraged. keep it up and God bless you.

  10. Christopher mukumbuta Says:

    Hi Karl. Since I started reading your message, I become more of myself. How ever I have problem in getting rid of the bad habit-Drinking. Please help

  11. Girlie bautista Says:

    Hi karl, im happy that you still continue to send me your inspiring message it help me a lits because sometimes i dont know how things come up and im still bored and down despite of something i achieved yet i feel neglected sometimes i dont know why .. Sometimes i feel lost at all please continue sending uour messages it really helps me a lot. More power to you!

  12. Karl Perera Says:

    First, Agusta I appreciate what you say. Being too kind is a trait many share and attracting those who take advantage can be a common problem, I sympathize. I have some good books on this page you might find helpful:

    More messages are coming if you are signed up for my newsletter Kiran.

    Thanks Hassan, glad to be helping you, keep being positive and self esteem and improvement will come!

  13. Hassan Says:

    Dear Karl. Thank you for your helpful words. I have a very negative mind which stops me so hard from progress. I’m student in Tokyo and I really want to succeed and get a job here although it’s hard but mind makes a big barrier to do things. Thanks to your messages I can push myself towards progress

  14. kiran Says:

    Hi Karl,

    Extremely motivated when I was down

    Need some more motivated messages and emails since my wife has cheated me and wants divorce.

    We have 2 kids…she loves them and meets them outside when I m at work

  15. Agusta Says:

    Hi Karl and thank you for all your emails, witch i value a lot.
    There is something about your messages that i like or like hit me . i have read a lot of books and am receiving a lot of similar subject but yours are somehowe different . I dont realy know what to go for?? im 57 years old and have achive a lot in life. But want to go for success in art , my talents , and to attract good , inspiring and supporting people into my life, it looks like that week people or people that have personal limits get stuck to me and become like my children that im responsable for. i would like to get out of that circle. So my thinking is whitch of the books or your guidancy would help me to get in to a new pattern,.
    With lots of thanks.

  16. karl perera Says:

    Love to hear what you think about this page. Do you know what you want? look forward to your comments..