Before we start this topic let’s be clear that you cannot stop your negative thoughts all the time. It is a fact that sometimes you will be down and see the negative side of a situation, or without even thinking, your mind may respond to what is happening to you in a negative way. This is part of life but there are ways that you can gradually improve your thinking and become less negative in your outlook.
Negative self talk is an example of how we limit ourselves and stop any hope of a positive outcome by convincing ourselves that the negative view is appropriate. It almost certainly is not and serves no purpose other than confirming your fears and preventing you from daring to step out into the unknown, where success lives. He who dares wins!
So what can you do to end your negative thoughts? I have a few simple suggestions for you to try. The value of optimism in your life is one of the greatest secrets of being happy with yourself and who you are. Being optimistic is always better than being negative and will help you build your self esteem.
When you find yourself being negative, question what you’ve just said, (or in the case of negative self talk what you have just told yourself). Ask yourself if it is really true that nobody likes you, for example, or that you have no friends, whatever it is question it and ask yourself to justify your statement. You’ll see it’s not truth but a distorted negative view.
If you’ve just heard yourself say two or three negative things then stop a moment and try, (no matter how hard it is), to say one positive thing about the person or situation. There is nearly always a positive side somewhere. If you can stop the slide into negativity with a few words then this is a big step towards thinking more positively. Learn about different ways to promote positive thinking in your life
If you’re really down, try focusing on what is in your life to be thankful for and make a list. This will lift your mood and instantly you will feel less negative. The truth is that no matter how desperate and bad things may appear, there are always many things to be thankful for. Changing your focus by doing this will make a huge difference in your life. What impact can positive thinking make in your life?
List what you have achieved so far in your life and plan what else you want to do. Becoming more focused on where you have been and where you want to go will concentrate your mind on positive movement forward. It is much easier to move forward when you have momentum so just get started!
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I find that one of the best things I can do to become more positive and inspired about life is to read inspirational self help books which can give you real strength and motivation to move on with your life and end your negative thoughts and old thinking patterns which hold you back. Check them out and get reading today!
And finally, you could try watching a comedy program or two or just start laughing about something you find funny, it is the best medicine after all!
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