Improve your communication skills

Written by Karl Perera BA, MA, DipLC
Updated: January 22nd, 2020

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If you have low self esteem then often one of the consequences is an inability to communicate well with others. This can be  a serious problem for you in many areas of your life and especially at work where communication is so important. This page will show you how to improve communication skills to help you build self esteem and confidence.

What’s more, lack of communication skills will affect you in your everyday relationships with friends and social events can become a nightmare. Fortunately, I am going to show you how to improve communication skills in a few simple steps, so do read on.

Improve your social skills

First, think about the social situations which you find difficult. Decide how you would like to relate with others socially and maybe watch someone you admire who is socially skillful. If you watch carefully you may notice how they smile and listen to others a lot.

Become good at conversations

To become a good conversationalist the number one rule is to listen. You don’t have to talk too much. When you are nervous, chances are that you talk and talk and the other person switches off. When they show a lack of interest in what you are saying, you start to think you’re boring or hopeless at this sort of thing. Try to listen more – this step one.

Your fear of failure in social situations may make you avoid parties or other social gatherings but you must go to social events to get better at handling them. Communicating well is like everything, you need a lot of practice. One reason for a lack of social skills and bad communication is a lack of self confidence. Something as small as smiling can make you feel more confident. Want to improve your self confidence?  Check out the Confidence CD Trainer which will help you go even further in developing your confidence and help you maintain the new you.

Overcome shyness

improve communication skills Shyness may be preventing you from being the social person you want to be, and so improving your communication skills may also involve working on this. As I see it, shyness is not a problem if you learn to deal with it and you can overcome it. I know this from personal experience. It is not easy but as all things you cannot run away and hide you have to face the problem and beat it. If you have a problem with shyness and are looking to become more sociable then click here to visit this page – overcoming shyness tips.

Why assertiveness matters

Assertiveness is another factor in your success as an effective communicator. Can you say no when you want to? Or do you always seem to agree with other people’s suggestions and demands on you? Would you like to be more assertive and be able to say what you are thinking and feeling without feeling guilty? There are a number of things which can help with assertiveness but a higher level of self esteem and confidence promotes more assertive behaviour. These are all connected. To become more assertive you definitely need some kind of help and for that reason I have included the following page: assertiveness training – click to find out more now and get the help you need to speak up for yourself.

Communication skills are important

Often I see that many people do not believe that developing communication skills is important. They are wrong and this article based on research shows why communication skills are vital .

In the end, I think that the number one problem which stops you from communicating effectively is fear. It is fear that stops you from trying and keeps you trapped where you are now. It is also fear which makes your social failings seem more serious than they really are. You need to conquer this fear step by step. The most effective communicators are confident, relaxed, (or at least appear to be even if they are nervous), and are able to be themselves in the presence of strangers. They allow their personality to shine through and they act naturally. When you are nervous the opposite is true – you are not relaxed, not confident and you cannot be yourself.

Two final things I want to suggest are firstly the importance of being relaxed and confident so that you can be yourself socially and secondly the use of self hypnosis to change how you think and act in certain situations. If you take a look at my self hypnosis page you will find a number of downloads you can access in minutes which will help you deal with every kind of problem you might face in your efforts to improve your communication skills and self esteem. I advise you to give them a try, you’ll be very pleased with the results I’m sure!

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Photo of Karl Perera, MA, DipLC Karl Perera is a fully qualified Life Coach, Teacher and author of Self Esteem Secrets. His qualifications include Masters and DipLC. He has taught at various universities including Durham, Leicester and Anglia Ruskin, Cambridge. He has run since 1997 and is an expert in Self Esteem and Self Development.

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