Body Loathing

Written by Karl Perera BA, MA, DipLC
Updated: April 22nd, 2020

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Hunger Games: The War Women Wage Against Their Bodies

An article about body loathing

By Dr. Sam Von Reiche and Colleen Baker

Life has dealt womankind a full house of body-loathing cards—self hatred, self punishment, the compulsive search for penance, redemption and perfection. We sneer with disdain at our mirror reflections, and grab disgustedly at our un-toned stomachs. Dare we eat a forbidden bite of dessert or skip a workout at the gym?

Each and every day women wage the Battle of the Bulge for the perfectly slender and sculpted bodies they see in the fashion mags. And while they might even make headway every so often, they inevitably lose the war: because it is an unwinnable war, where female self worth hinges on the impossibility of physical perfection. This results in self loathing body image.

Rather than treat food as something to be counted, healthy eating should be promoted and this will help women to look and feel healthy. That should be enough! It is a great idea to treat the body well and perhaps visit different kinds of health facilities, this can only help with self respect.

A survey by Glamour Magazine reveals that 97% of women are waging this brutal war against their bodies. Young women across the country were asked to track every negative thought they consciously had about themselves in a day. A total of 37% reported being appalled at how brutal their body self-talk actually was. This causes very poor body image and even the onset of body dysmorphia.

As the Talking Heads once mused “How did we get here?” How did women come to treat the temple of their bodies as though they were enemies? As Glamour points out, we have been bred to not like what we see from the very start.

From early on, girls are socialized to tie their female worth with physical beauty: the perfect face, perfect body and perfect look, as well as to ‘act like a lady’. Millions of messages influence girls not to embrace themselves as they are. As Glamour respondent Ann Kearney-Cooke, PhD. puts it, “Friends getting together and tearing themselves down is such a common thing that it’s hard to avoid.” It has become a bonding experience for girls to rip themselves apart. The movie Mean Girls is a great example of this horrendous ritual. In one compelling scene, the central group of beautiful teen girls, the Plastics, are looking in the mirror and pointing out their flaws. When they direct their attention to the imperfections of their newest member, she appears happily oblivious. Raised in Africa, she is comfortable with her body, and entirely naive to their American body-loathing culture.

Intense media pressure for women to have perfect bodies encourages the rampant proliferation of eating disorders, exercise addictions, anxiety and depression . But gorgeous celebrities like Adele, Kate Winslet and Jessica Simpson who refuse to yield to unrelenting Hollywood pressure to be super thin serve as inspirations for us all. If more female celebs fought back, young girls would have an easier time embracing their own curves.

From the start, young girls need to be taught that being comfortable with themselves is more important than maintaining a certain size or looking like a model. Research has already begun to explore the promotion of self-love to young children. Dr. Jennifer O’Dea implemented the school based “Everybody’s Different” program for body image and self esteem. Dr. O’Dea’s research found that participating schools reported significant decreases in body-perfecting practices and overall body negativity.

A mandatory curriculum for grades as low as first or second promoting healthy body image and self esteem in both girls and boys would represent a giant step towards correcting this widespread problem. Little girls who truly like what they see in the mirror can in turn become healthy role models for future generations. One day American women everywhere will look in the mirror and smile.

Now that is an American Dream.

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It is a pity that so many women have such a negative self image of themselves and of the appearance of their body. However, we have to accept this is the case. It is hardly a surprise that so many of these women connect their self esteem with dieting or exercise and how they believe they look. Society is not helping them because women see celebrities with perfect bodies in magazines and there is a lot of pressure on women to look amazing. Beauty is not only in body shape and this has to be communicated to all.

There are many reasons we could discuss why this has happened. I feel that one of the main reasons for all this pressure on women and appearance is due to marketing and sales. Many retailers rely on women spending money constantly and exploiting the need to look good provides so many retailers with good income.

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Photo of Karl Perera, MA, DipLC Karl Perera is a fully qualified Life Coach, Teacher and author of Self Esteem Secrets. His qualifications include Masters and DipLC. He has taught at various universities including Durham, Leicester and Anglia Ruskin, Cambridge. He has run since 1997 and is an expert in Self Esteem and Self Development.

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