Positive Affirmations to Build Self Esteem

Written by Karl Perera BA, MA, DipLC
November 14th, 2013 | Updated: March 18th, 2020

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Positive self esteem affirmations often do work because an affirmation can help you replace a negative thought with a more helpful positive one and improve your attitude. This is because repeating over and over a positive statement includes within it some kind of belief or intention. Therefore, if you repeat this often enough you will start to believe it for real, and that changes the way you behave. Furthermore, if you recite these affirmations whilst in a relaxed state, this becomes a form of self hypnosis as the words will sink into your subconscious and alter the way you behave.

Sounds like a good idea? It is! But how exactly do you go about using affirmations for the best effect? Well, I’ve prepared a Bonus Checklist for you which will make everything a breeze…

Bonus: Download a free checklist that will give you extra tips for using affirmations and lists my choice of ten of the best affirmations for boosting your self esteem.

Self Talk

Without realising it you tell yourself negative things all the time. This is called negative self talk. This negative self talk is very powerful because you do tend to believe what you tell yourself. At the same time you are your own worst critic.

By using the power of positive affirmations and by repeating them you can recondition your brain and change how you feel and think about any situation. It is always possible to see a positive side to almost any situation if you look for it. Positive affirmations help you to focus on the positive rather than on the negative aspects of any given situation.

If you have a positive attitude then you begin to expect that things will turn out well and you are likely to encourage success in your life. Another benefit of being positive is the fact that you will attract people who think in the same way and those people are more likely to be helpful and supportive.


Others can also say hurtful things that you need to be strong enough to ignore. Coping with criticism is something we all need to be able to do. Inner strength and the ability to deal with any criticism, or ignore it if it is unfair, is vital for your self esteem and confidence.

On the other hand, it is also equally important to have the strength to accept any criticism that is true and to work to improve those areas . One helpful suggestion is to think of criticism as feedback that you can use to improve yourself but you also need to recognise when criticism is unjustified.

Being positive is so important, not only can it help you to become more successful but your self esteem will increase as you begin to move away from negative thinking. So how can you be more positive? Read this page about how to end negative thoughts.

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A List of self esteem affirmations to boost your self esteem:

  • I deserve to be happy and successful
  • I have the power to change myself
  • I can forgive and understand others and their motives
  • I can make my own choices and decisions
  • I am free to choose to live as I wish and to give priority to my desires
  • I can choose happiness whenever I wish no matter what my circumstances
  • I am flexible and open to change in every aspect of my life
  • I act with confidence having a general plan and accept plans are open to alteration
  • It is enough to have done my best
  • I deserve to be loved

The power of self esteem affirmations

As you sit there reading this, I’m sure you realize you need to use affirmations daily to make the change that you need in your life…the idea behind this is to change your focus to a positive one. This will not happen instantly but requires repeated effort over time. So please don’t give up on this if it doesn’t seem to help immediately.

I suggest you repeat affirmations at least twice a day during the morning and evening when you get time. At first you may not feel like you agree with some of the things you are saying but eventually you will change the way you think and act and that is the purpose of these statements. Try putting some of your emotions into the words and they will become so much more powerful.

Self affirmation is so important if you want to build your self esteem because you need to keep telling yourself positive things – the results will be immense because there is no greater criticism that we face than that which we give ourselves. Having a positive outlook is like putting on armour or carrying weapons that will protect you in your daily life.

More Affirmations

  • I love meeting strangers and approach them with boldness and enthusiasm.
  • I am self-reliant, creative and persistent in whatever I do.
  • I love change and easily adjust myself to new situations.
  • I always see only the good in others. I attract only positive people.

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So, affirmations are a great way to improve your self esteem, providing the statements are acceptable to the person . I hope you’re convinced and will give them a try. Which affirmations to use and how to use them? I’ve put together a helpful Checklist to help you with this and as a bonus, download it here:

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Read these Recommended Books:

#1 A Pathway to Transformation   by Jeanie Marshall

#2 100 affirmations to make your life happier by Dr.Richard Carlson (a great teacher and such a positive book!)

#3  Count Your Blessings : The Healing Power of Gratitude and Love – this is the real secret to changing your mind to focus on the positive. by John F. DeMartini

3 thoughts on “Positive Affirmations to Build Self Esteem”

  1. Preetha Saji George

    Sir I really loved your article to boost up my self-esteem. As I was reading ,I thought about the stress and strain at our work place, family and the people we deal with every single hour and the aftermath it leaves on us to ruin our rest of the day. The article is just like an energy drink to keep ourselves mentally fit and keep us going with a positive energy. Really a good work.looking forward.Best wishes.

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