Don't worry what others think about you

In this article I want to talk about how to become more confident by caring less about what others think.

Do you worry what others think?

It is good to be a sensitive person and consider other people's feelings and thoughts... However, you need balance. You should be able to act according to what you think and feel...

- Worrying about what others think will lower your self confidence because:

• You will behave how others expect you to - you will not be true to yourself. You will feel you are denying yourself the right to live according to who you are.
  
• You will have problems relaxing in stressful situations because you will be wondering what others are thinking about you - this will make it likely you will make mistakes and feel unsure of yourself.
  
• Speaking in public may become a nightmare - you will focus on the audience rather than on your performance. You may feel the attention as they stare. This will make you nervous and uncomfortable when you need to be relaxed.
  
• You will make decisions according to other's expectations and ignore your own wishes and feelings. When you feel unhappy you may blame yourself. Blame can even become self hate...   

How to stop worrying what others think:

If you want to build your self confidence you need to stop caring so much what others think and more about your opinion.

- You can stop worrying what others may be thinking because I have done just that. I know it's possible...so how can you change?

• Ask yourself why do you care about what others think and challenge this - are you seeking other's approval because you feel inferior or lack self confidence?
  
• Understand that you are only guessing about the thoughts of other people, you may be completely wrong. Why are you letting this guessing affect you?
  
• Here's a great course to help you Build your self confidence (and it's free). If you have self confidence you will trust your own thoughts and care less about other people's opinions and more about your own.
  
• Learning to be more assertive and say no is important because there are times when you should put your priorities first.
  
• List the things that you want to do in your life and make a decision to achieve them. Don't let others tell you what you should or shouldn't do (for you).
  
• If you catch yourself wondering what someone else thinks or talking about this then stop and consider how you feel and decide what is more important what you think or what they think.
  
• Make a decision to change. Decide to think differently and you will be half way there... 
  
• Download this helpful what others think self-hypnosis program - start being yourself and feel good about that...
  

Finally, remember that saying "sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me" ?...

- It's true. Why do you let other peoples thinking affect you so negatively? Thoughts are harmless - they can only hurt you if you let them.

- I'm sure I lost so many years worrying about what others thought of me and I was trapped in a cage of negative thinking and fear. I didn't like who I was at all. Now I realise I was mistaken the whole time.

- Improving your self esteem and confidence is the right way to go and I hope that you can free yourself the way I freed myself because you deserve better .... 

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