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My self-esteem is taking a major hit. Why?
because the people at work belittle me and I feel terrified and
threatened. I am ignored and treated very badly. I am now a wreck and a
bumbling idiot. I have lost confidence in myself and that took me many
years to gain. I need the money however and can't quit. What should I
do?
My answer: this is a great question and shows
how fragile we are. What people say to us and how they treat us has a
deep and lasting affect on us. The problem with the abuse you suffer at
work is that it is repeated every day and is therefore very difficult to
just ignore. Even if you were the toughest person on the planet I don't
see how you could suffer this and not have damaged self esteem and
confidence.
There are many ways to build self esteem all of
which can help you but as you know if you don't remove the cause of the
problems you'll only partly help yourself. You need to quit. First work
on belief that you can find something better.
Talk to friends about this and find out if there
are any other opportunities. List your good qualities and think of
twenty or more reasons why you are a great employee and what you offer
to anyone employing you. Create powerful affirmations and repeat them
often. Your co-workers are bullies and bullies have problems - tell them
so.
You have to stand up to them even if you feel
terrible.
No one deserves this. Don't let them succeed by
believing even the smallest part of their nasty lies and words against
you. Be better than them. Your solution IS to get away from this
situation unless you can reason with them and discuss this. ıf you
cannot look for an escape as soon as possible.
These may help you:
"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire
universe, deserve your love & affection."
Buddha
"Far away there in the sunshine are my highest
aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their
beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead."
Louisa May Alcott
"If I am not for myself, who will be?"
Pirke Avoth
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