Self talk and esteem
What you say to yourself is important and influences
your self esteem and confidence in a positive or negative way. Ideally you should
talk encouragingly to yourself, after all if you do not encourage yourself
who will? The world is full of negative people or those who try to put you down
so to be strong you need a defence.
Where does negative self talk come from?
- One of the best explanations I have heard is outlined in a wonderful book
called the Four Agreements - inside you have an inner judge who is
more critical than anybody you've ever met, he/ she is unforgiving and
lethal to your self confidence and success. Please check this book out, I've
read it so many times and I'll read again for sure!
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here to read more about the book now!
- Your parents have such an affect on you that their words can become
buried in your brain and phrases echo around your head. Sometimes you hear
your father's comments in a situation you've experienced before only this
time you're telling yourself the same thing!
- If you hear the same negative comments too often you may believe them and
tell yourself what others think is true.
- Excuses not to try something risky. But if you always stay with
what's safe and never take a risk you will never reach your potential to
succeed big time. You will turn away opportunities before you even think
about them.
- Lack of self esteem and confidence makes you likely to be very
negative about yourself and easily defeated. Low self esteem brings with it
very negative self talk. Here's a great course which will help you to
improve
your self confidence - click now!
The power of self talk
Thoughts precede moods so if you think unhappy thoughts you feel unhappy.
Self talk is your thoughts making themselves known to you. Hearing somebody else
talking negatively is bad enough so imagine how much more hearing your own inner
voice is. If you tell yourself you are a failure, guess what, you
will be! If you tell yourself you can succeed then you have a much improved
chance of succeeding.
Negative self talk can lead to low self esteem, no confidence or even
depression and this leads to more negative thought. A vicious circle.
How to help yourself
- Use visualisation and affirmations - check out my
affirmations
page
- Build your self esteem and confidence - this website is filled with
ideas on this so browse the whole site Also try this amazing
self
hypnosis download - Building your self esteem It really
works!
- Don't accept others putting you down, tell others you don't agree and
that they are wrong about you!
- Use your faith - the Christian religion teaches all men are equal
and the Bible is a great source of awe-inspiring quotes and confidence
boosting ideas. Your faith will help you be stronger.
- Be easier on yourself, forgive yourself and be kinder to
yourself.
- Do something to help others. You will feel happier and more
satisfied. You will respect yourself more.
- Talk to yourself in a positive way - if you hear that negative
inner voice cut it off and disagree with it!

Recommended Books about this
subject:
(Any books you buy will be helping me to develop this website and
make it an even more valuable resource for those like you who want to build
their self esteem, thanks for your support!)
#1
What
to say when you talk to yourself - "I couldn't get enough of this
book, and before I was finished, I "accidentally" found myself being
more upbeat and positive. I can't recommend enough that you read this book!"
#2 Self
Talk: Key to Personal Growth - "There is power in words--especially
the words you speak to yourself. You become what you say you are. I highly
recommend the book for people ready for a positive change"
#3 Overcoming
myth of self-worth: Reason and fallacy in what you say to yourself -
This book can transform your life for the better without anything mystical. Each
chapter is an adventure
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