Signs You’re Self-Loathing

You are your worst critic. It is a common habit for individuals to hold themselves to the highest standards and essentially beat themselves up when those expectations aren’t met. Though it is normal to be harder on yourself than others, too much negative thinking about yourself can lead to an array of consequences. When you reach a level in which you truly despise who you are, something has to be done about it. If your feelings about yourself aren’t resolved, it can wreak havoc on your life relationships, career, and overall well-being.

The first step to stopping self-loathing or self-hate would be to be aware of the signs that you just don’t love yourself or believe in who you are anymore.

  1.      Poor Eating Habits

Lots of people who hate themselves will often use food as a form of punishment. Some, choose to eat too much while others don’t eat enough. Overeating becomes a pattern and reason for hating yourself. Essentially by eating more food, you feel shame later and as a result, have lived up to the negative opinion you have of yourself. Those who under eat often feel as if they don’t deserve nourishment and deprive themselves of foods they both love and need.

  1.      Drug or Alcohol Addiction

Vices like drugs and alcohol are common for those who want to mask emotions. It may start with a glass of wine or a joint per day, but this vicious cycle of numbness and shame often lead to dependency and addiction to harsher drugs and higher potencies of alcohol. Eventually, you’re using heroin or drinking pints of liquor only to come down off your high or wake up with a hangover which leaves you feeling ashamed.

To stop feeling ashamed, essentially you abuse drugs and alcohol more. This post on how long does it take to detox from heroin, states it can take weeks for the drug to be removed from your system and most don’t recover as the withdrawal symptoms are too much to bear. Theoretically, without help, those who have self-hate, develop a fatal relationship with drugs and alcohol.

  1.      Negative Self-Talk

Do you find yourself talking defeat before you even start the day? This is a common practice for those who self-loath. They psyche themselves out to believe that they can’t accomplish anything, and essentially it is what manifests in real life. This again creates a negative cycle in that your failures start to stand as confirmations that you’re a negative or bad person.

  1.      Demise of Relationships

Many people who hate themselves believe that they don’t deserve anything positive. This includes love and kindness. They sabotage their own relationships as a means of preventing people from getting too close to them. Those who self-loath have been known to neglect their partners, be physically or verbally abusive, and even become unfaithful. These reckless behaviors essentially ruin the relationship which then justifies their hateful thoughts that they don’t deserve happiness.

If you can relate to any of the above-mentioned scenarios, it is a very real possibility that you’re self-loathing. Hating yourself stems from something you’ve failed at or something that you dislike about yourself. It drudges up negative feelings and emotions about who you are and your ability to be successful. If this is you, the best thing you can do is start rebuilding your confidence and self-esteem, remove all expectations, and essentially start accomplishing things that make you proud of who you are. IF you’re dealing with addiction, seek professional help for your road back to recovery.

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9 Responses to “Signs You’re Self-Loathing”

  1. Adolph Bighetty Says:

    Thank-u again of finding out what has been the root cause of my behaviour in addiction and other circumstances in my self esteem that i haven’t recoqnize. but, reading ur articalcles and inspirations has given some pointers how to behave myself and other obstasticles that i have barriers in my self esteem. so, i have been self loathing all this time, by repressing it.

  2. Gloria Says:

    Thanks so much for dis wonderful article, I am beginning to love myself more than Eva before

  3. Barbara Nyamedee Says:

    I really love this article
    I’m such a person who normally think that I can’t accomplish my dreams.Negativity was killing me but now I can clearly say that those negativity has no dominion over me.Thanks a lot for your wonderful article.

  4. Anonymous Says:

    Sometimes, not always. I do love myself!

  5. Evelyn Ruiz Says:

    Very well done, so helpful. Thank you for. Your insipering writing

  6. Anonymous Says:

    Thank you Karl this good start of the year we must start the year with a positive attitude this is great

  7. Agusta Says:

    This was a good reading.
    I have never thought about if I hate myself but while i was reading lot’s of thoughts ran through my minde. And i think that i do not value my self as a person. I was taught in my youth that I was too selfish. So I started to se myself like that and started to change myself for others.

  8. Ess Says:

    Demise of relationships is so familiar. I am working on rebuilding relationships with my friends though.

  9. Anonymous Says:

    I hate my self .people have made fun of me for years . I have been called so many name that it hurts me. I don’t know how to laugh or say no. I didn’t yell screem .I hold everything inside