Newsletter 10 – February 2003

Article “Self Esteem is not Selfish!” by Karl Perera

I received an email a month or two ago claiming that self esteem is selfish and that I in fact was encouraging people to become selfish and that I in fact was selfish. This is a common mistake. If you want to improve yourself it is not selfish to look for happiness and self esteem. It is only selfish if you obsess about it and get so wrapped up in yourself you ignore others desires.

Why is self esteem vital?

  • It will help you confront the world and its challenges
  • It is a weapon you need to fight lack of self confidence and depression

The Bible teaches that everyone is entitled to a high level of self esteem – for we are all special and equal.

Low self esteem, low self confidence and depression are three evils that stop us from being what we can be and obstruct us from giving our best to the world. If you have the right attitude you will seek to improve yourself so that you can give more to those around you and to the world at large. This is an unselfish view.

Selfishness is sticking with low esteem and confidence and remaining afraid to open up and confront these problems. The result can be depression, anger, frustration and withdrawal. Withdrawn and depressed individuals are not likely to give much of themselves and are likely to hide away and avoid life and relationships. This is very selfish.

Focusing on yourself and your problems too much is also selfish and not helpful to you. Give yourself a break and focus on elevating your self esteem but don’t obsess. Click here for a course in self confidence

How will increasing my self esteem help me be less selfish?

  • You will respect yourself more and also respect others more
  • You will realise everybody has value
  • You will find that helping others raises your self esteem – you will therefore enjoy helping others more
  • You will give more to others by being truer to yourself
  • You will be happier and more pleasant to others

Build your self esteem and be less selfish! Give to others and you will receive twice as much back.

If you have low self esteem or poor self respect how can you respect or love others? Fix this and you open the way to a new life of unselfishness.

See you next month,

Health and happiness to you and your family in 2003.

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