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How can I become less shy?
This problem is common to many
people so you are not alone and by the way I suffered greatly from
shyness which can be quite painful. As regards what to do there are many
things, the most important of which is to start deciding that you want to improve
and then set yourself small targets to achieve. For example, make a list of small
challenges you can face which will take you forward. If you are shy, making a
speech is too great a leap but you can break it down, maybe first step ask a
question in a small group, speak up in certain situations, talk to a certain
person etc.
Confidence is huge part of the problem of shyness. it is built upon lack of
confidence.
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hope this helps!
I was also a fearful and shy type. There is only one way to overcome
your shyness and that is to challenge
your fear bit by bit. Write every success you experience daily and
start now.
One of the most difficult problems about changing yourself or your behaviour is
the comments from other people who make fun of you. Decide that you won't listen
to them and if possible get away from them and be around someone who will
support you (if there is someone like this) if not a professional is really
helpful for this reason. I too have beaten shyness and understand what a serious
problem it is! If you would like to talk to a professional then I recommend
online counseling. I have written a page to explain the many benefits of
online counseling - click to read about it and
contact a highly qualified professional who can help you.
Once people think of you as shy they label you and it takes a very long time for
them to change their minds. Likewise, you need to change your own mind about
yourself. The only way to beat shyness is to face situations which make you feel
shy. Gradually face them and write a diary recording your successes. I have a
page about overcoming shyness here:
www.more-selfesteem.com/overcoming_shyness_tips.htm
please ask if you have any questions. Also you can sign up for the free self
confidence course here:
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